Best friends who end up dating
A breakup can be heartbreaking and the inclination to stay friends is understandable. Manage your emotions by reminding yourself the relationship is over.
When someone was important to you romantically, it's natural to want to hold on to that connection. As you move forward, remember to keep your emotions in check to sustain the relationship long term.
Jessica Engle is a relationship coach and psychotherapist based in the San Francisco Bay Area.
She founded Bay Area Dating Coach in 2009, after receiving her Master's in Counseling Psychology.
But come from a place of love and compassion.” — Maggie, 27, branded marketing Is there anything the best friend or their SO can do to help the situation?
“Your best friend and their SO should talk about what you are feeling.
When they started seeing one another, she completely prioritized him above all else. She took him back even after she found out he’d just slept with his ex-girlfriend.
The situation was resolved over our heart-to-heart talk.
If my friend told me about things their partner was doing that I found disrespectful, I would speak up about that specific situation, but I never commented on their partner as a whole.
(Luckily, they ended up growing me on a bit after a few years.)” — Julia “She consistently talked down to my friend. I resolved it by sucking it up and finally learning her name.” — Otto “The guy was simply bad news.
People don’t like hearing about their faults at the best of times and going behind your friend’s back to address the situation is almost never a good idea.” — Adina Mahalli (MSW), relationship expert and mental health professional, Maple Holistics “If your feelings were based on an isolated incident, then have a chat with them about it. You might decide to politely decline invitations to hang out with them and their significant other.” — Alisha Powell, Ph D, LCSW, therapist and social worker.
If you just have a general feeling of dislike, then adapting your behaviour to display friendliness can evoke a similar response in return.” — Rachel Maclynn, chartered psychologist, dating expert, founder of The Vida Consultancy “NOPE! “It might be hard to rekindle that friendship if their relationship does eventually end.
But if those tiffs, or lingering feelings that you're not getting out as much as you're putting in, happen more often than not, your friendship could be unhealthy, or even toxic.